FREUD’s THEORY ON PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT – ORAL, ANAL AND PHALLIC

Kya Koi Insaan Perfect Hota Hai?

Freud kehte hain ki har insaan ki personality mein kahin na kahin thodi si kami zarur hoti hai. Unka maanna hai ki perfection ek illusion hai – koi bhi insaan 100% perfect nahi hota.

Jaise kuch log kehte hain “God is perfect.”

Freud mazak mein bolte hain: 

“Agar God perfect hote toh duniya mein itni problems, gandagi, anxiety kyun hoti?” 

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Anxiety Aur Perfection Ka Sach

Jab hum kisi ki anxiety ko measure karte hain, toh 25 tak ke score ko hum normal hi maante hain. Iska matlab? 

Thodi anxiety har kisi mein hoti hai, aur ye zaroori bhi hai life chalane ke liye.

Soch ke dekho – duniya mein koi bhi banda perfect nahi hai. Har kisi mein thoda bahut fixations ya personal traits hote hain.

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🎭 Character Ka Matlab – Freud Style Mein

“Character” ka matlab yahan moral value nahi, ek permanent aur consistent trait hota hai jo insaan ki personality ka hissa ban jaata hai. Freud ne kaha:

“Agar kisi insaan ke kuch fixations bachpan mein develop ho jaayein, toh bade hone ke baad bhi woh usi tareeke se react karta hai.”

Jaise:

• Oral Character
• Anal Character
• Phallic Character

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🍼 Oral Stage: Jab Sab Kuch Mooh Se Hota Hai

Oral stage birth ke baad ka wo phase hota hai jahan baby mouth se hi duniya ko explore karta hai – doodh peeta hai, chiz chabata hai, sab kuch taste karta hai.

1️⃣ Over-Satisfied Oral Stage (Zyada Doodh Mila)

Jo babies maa ka doodh zyada pee lete hain ya unki maa hi unko har samay doodh ki bottle muh mein lagaye rakhti hai, jisse baby zyada chillaye ya rona na machaye ya pareshaan na kare, tab unka nature bade hokar hota hai:

• Zyada dependent hona
• Dusron ki advice lena har decision mein
• Self-decision lene mein confident nahi hona

“Aise log har baat pe 10 logon se poochhte hain – bhaiya, angoor kha loon kya?”

2️⃣ Frustrated Oral Stage (Kam Doodh Mila)

Jinko satisfaction nahi mila, unki life mein yeh habits develop ho jaati hain:

• Zyada khana khana
• Bar-bar kuch chew karte rehna (gum, nails, etc.)
• Smoking, drinking ki tendency
• Hamesha kuch na kuch lips/mouth se related karna (lipstick, chewing, etc.)

Inke andar ek strong need hoti hai kuch acquire karne ki – knowledge, cheezein, experiences, etc.

“Kuch bhi mil jaaye – kha jaayein, le jaayein, seekh jaayein!”

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👄 Oral Biting Type: Jab Baccha Doodh Ke Saath-Saath Kaata Bhi Karta Tha

Yeh type ke log bade hone ke baad:

• Strong Critics ban jaate hain
• Har cheez mein analysis karna pasand karte hain
• Opinions dene mein expert hote hain

“Inhone maa ke doodh ke saath, unke bre**ts ko kaatna bhi shuru kar diya tha!”

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🍑 Anal Stage: Cleanliness Se Character Tak

Yeh stage us time ki hoti hai jab baccha potty train hota hai. 

Freud ne bola – jab baby ko potty ka control sikhaya jaata hai, toh uska behavior deeply impact hota hai.

1️⃣ Anal Retentive Personality (Sab Sambhal Ke Rakhne Wale)

Yeh log:

• Bahut zyada orderly hote hain
• Thoda kachra bhi ho toh bardaasht nahi karte
• Har cheez time pe, perfectly chahte hain
• Kanjoos hote hain – har choti cheez sambhal ke rakhte hain
• OCD jaisa behavior dikhaate hain

“Toota hua pechkas (screw driver) bhi sambhal ke rakhenge – kaam aa sakta hai kabhi!”

2️⃣ Anal Expulsive Personality (Thoda Raw Type)

Is type ke log:

• Bina soche samjhe sab bol dete hain
• Thoda rebellious aur expressive hote hain
• Cheezein openly express karte hain, emotions bhi

Yeh sab ka reason hota hai unka early childhood experience – potty ke control se lekar maa ka reaction tak!

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Conclusion: Life Style Aur Fixations

Freud kehte hain ki yeh jo fixations hote hain, yeh insaan ke life style ka part ban jaate hain.

“Koi inse chutkaara nahi paata – kyunki inka treatment tabhi possible hai jab banda mentally usi bachpan ki stage mein wapas jaye.”

Lekin kaun karega ye sab? Isliye log apne fixations ko personality traits aur apna style bana lete hain.

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🧩 Summary (Bohot Simple Hai):

• Koi bhi insaan perfect nahi hota – thodi anxiety sab mein hoti hai.
• Bachpan ke experiences insaan ke permanent traits ban jaate hain.
• Freud ne har stage ke alag character type bataye – Oral, Anal, Phallic.
• In traits ka ilaaj mushkil hai, log inhe apna life style bana lete hain.